So, gentle parenting includes a directive to modify the environment to suit your children, rather than the other way around. 2 yo has tantrum at restaurants? Maybe she’s just not ready. 7 yo freaks out at doing his math right now? Maybe you see he’s looking for connection and try it at another time. True authoritative parenting has authoritarian elements: The environment is unyielding and the child must comply. No, it isn’t reactive (yelling etc) but it can involve threats (that you do follow through on!) and hence punishment. Gentle parenting takes as a premise that feelings are “the core of who we are.” It’s like authoritative parenting, but without a moral center in which truth supersedes feelings and competence is not defined down so that 2 yos can be like erstwhile 1 yos and 7 yos like erstwhile 4 yos. So…not like authoritative parenting at all.
How interesting! I’ll have to do some reading because it seems I have perhaps been misunderstanding gentle parenting this whole time 😂 I thought holding firm expectations and following through with punishment or consequences were an integral part of gentle parenting! But come to think of it I’m not sure I’ve ever seen any sort of concrete explanation of gentle parenting at all
What you’re talking about is indeed authoritative parenting. Which is gentle by historical standards in which kids are just the receptacle for adult emotion. 🤪😂
I’m so sorry btw. I meant to delete my incorrectly placed reply to you, not your initial comment! The three dot thing is confusingly placed. If you want to repost it please do. I think it’s super interesting and a common misunderstanding.
So, gentle parenting includes a directive to modify the environment to suit your children, rather than the other way around. 2 yo has tantrum at restaurants? Maybe she’s just not ready. 7 yo freaks out at doing his math right now? Maybe you see he’s looking for connection and try it at another time. True authoritative parenting has authoritarian elements: The environment is unyielding and the child must comply. No, it isn’t reactive (yelling etc) but it can involve threats (that you do follow through on!) and hence punishment. Gentle parenting takes as a premise that feelings are “the core of who we are.” It’s like authoritative parenting, but without a moral center in which truth supersedes feelings and competence is not defined down so that 2 yos can be like erstwhile 1 yos and 7 yos like erstwhile 4 yos. So…not like authoritative parenting at all.
How interesting! I’ll have to do some reading because it seems I have perhaps been misunderstanding gentle parenting this whole time 😂 I thought holding firm expectations and following through with punishment or consequences were an integral part of gentle parenting! But come to think of it I’m not sure I’ve ever seen any sort of concrete explanation of gentle parenting at all
Take a listen : https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-munk-debates-podcast/id1486184902?i=1000664485578
What you’re talking about is indeed authoritative parenting. Which is gentle by historical standards in which kids are just the receptacle for adult emotion. 🤪😂
I’m so sorry btw. I meant to delete my incorrectly placed reply to you, not your initial comment! The three dot thing is confusingly placed. If you want to repost it please do. I think it’s super interesting and a common misunderstanding.